This may be the last time…

I have found that I prefer reality shows from across the pond.  They appeal to me so much more than the ones available in the US. To me the English reality shows tend to be more gritty, have a documentary feel, and come across more “real.”

As I mentioned on facebook a couple of weeks ago, I have been watching this intense reality show on BBC America called “24 Hours in the ER.” In the intro a nurse says – “Everyone should walk through an Emergency Room once in their life, because it makes you realize what your priorities are. It’s not the rush, rush, rush and money, money, money. It’s about the people you love and the fact that one minute they are there, and the next minute they are gone.”

I do not know why, but this statement really affected me.  Maybe, it was because of the visual setting of an Emergency Room.  Amongst the injured people coming and going, the buzz of activity, the blood, the screams of pain, this nurse spoke in such a calm and wise way, that it cut through the craziness and it came to me so clearly…Regardless, this statement left an impression I cannot shake.  It motivated me to started thinking about a few things.  The most important aspect I settled on was that I really needed to be more “present” than I possibly have been in some situations.

Anyway, this simple statement made me think about where I have come from and where I am going with my life in regards to the people I am surrounded by, my family, friends, acquaintances…basically, all the components that provide stability, comfort, resources, and security in my life.

It is so easy to take things for granted.  For instance, I may not be totally engaged all the time, with the people whom I see on a regular basis, because I know that I will see them again soon.  Or, when visiting a familiar place, I may not look around, or not be fully aware of the surroundings, since I think I know it so well and I will be there again soon.  If I let them, everyday things and activities can become so superficial.  I am there, but I am not there…I think that everyone can relate to this.  Being truly “in-the-moment” is a very difficult thing to do, because our mind is so over-stimulated and cluttered!

This statement reinforced the fact, for me at least, how important it is to really make an effort and be in the moment.  When I sit with a friend I really want to be fully engaged, enjoy their company, take in what they are saying, make eye contact, fully listen, and open my mind to totally understand their perspective.  Same thing when I go to a familiar place.  I want to really open my eyes and other senses…I will always discover something new!  The scent of flowers, how the setting sun’s light is playing on the side of a building, the way the wind is moving the leaves in a tree…

I have made an agreement with myself.  I will try not to take anything for granted going forward.  I will never know when it will be the last time I experience certain situations again, and once gone they are lost forever.  I really want to “absorb” the person, place, and situation.  I want to be appreciative and thankful as to what I am experiencing.  In this way, these moments will be with me for the rest of my life, and will be something I remember and treasure.

 

 

~ by Jens Wallrabe on February 4, 2012.

11 Responses to “This may be the last time…”

  1. so you realized how much you missed me when i saw you on saturday?

  2. i mean sunday, i should have paid better attention!

    • Ha! Hi Ben! Well that is true! I have missed you! This post, however, was sitting in my note book about a week before…but, funny how things come together though! 🙂

  3. Great post Jens. I myself definitely need to practice being more present. I tend to always be in a rush. I need to take time to stop and smell the roses more often and make an effort to be fully engaged with the people in my life.
    Cheers!

  4. I once spent the evening of the Fourth of July in a Bronx emergency room. I saw firework injuries coming in by the dozen, including people I knew. The laws about fireworks were a lot looser then. And the result was an ER that resembled a MASH unit. Not a pleasant memory,

    Switching gears, I heard someone refer to the people who go on reality shows as MAWs… models, actors, whatevers…people who will do anything to parade their egos through anything for the chance to be seen and appreciated; an orgy of validation through humiliation.

    Last blog? Nooooooooo……

    • You are funny too Phil! Agree with you about reality shows in general. But, there is only so much faking that can go on in one of the busiest ERs in London…That’s why I like the show.

      The title of the blog, only corresponds to what I was talking about in the post – be in the “now,” because you never now if what you are doing will ever happen again.

      You are not going to get rid of me that easily! 🙂

  5. Hello Jens (I know…blast from the past)…I loved this post and can totally relate…once I had my little girl (she is 2 now) it made me realize how important it is to be in the moment and not take anything for granted…I love going for walks with her and watching her take everything in…she smells every flower, picks up colorfiul leafs and points at every bird with such enthusiam that just makes my heart smile. Life is just too short!

    Hope all is well!
    Sonya

  6. Hi Sonya! – It is so nice to hear from you. I hope everything is going well in your life and you are happy! It sounds like you are! What a wonderful thing it is to have a little girl! It’s amazing that it takes a child sometimes to help us adults appreciate the simplest of things…I am honored that you read one of my posts and look forward to possibly more feedback sometime in the future!?
    Things are well with me. I have a feeling that 2012 is going to be a special year! Stay in touch! – Jens

  7. Hi Jens,

    I like very much your blogs. In march I will be in Capetown, maybe you will be there as well for the Argus?
    Have a good day.
    mike

    • Thank you Mike!
      No, I will not be able to do the Argus this year, I will be involved in launching a fitness business this year, with the first unit opening in June. So, less racing this year. I hope you are having a great year so far and good luck for all your racing this year!! Stay in touch.
      Best, Jens

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